Ashley, Author at Empowered Cardology

Jul 23 2018

What would it be like to know the energy between you and your children when they were born?

I didn’t know about Cardology when my kids were little. But one thing I get to do now is to observe the kids of my kid’s friends (I’ve yet to become a grandma!) and look to see what the relationship is between the parents and their new little ones.

I recently looked at the cards of the newest arrival to a young couple my daughter went to college with. It is always fascinating to me to see the family dynamics according to the cards and then watch it play out as the kids grow up!

This family has been especially fun to watch. I wish I could post pics to show their cuteness, but I don’t want to intrude upon their privacy, so will just share the relationships as told by their cards.

Mom is a 2♦/6♣

Dad is a K♣/4♥

Oldest daughter is a 9♥/9♦

(One of the interesting things about this is that my oldest daughter is a 9♥/9♦ and she and the oldest of the young couple have a very special bond.)

Baby #2 for this couple is a 6♦/5♦.

Here are the card relationships:

Baby is the Mars card for Mom (the 6♦ is the Mars card for a 2♦) This makes baby someone who can either trigger mom to anger a lot or be a catalyst for motivating mom towards her passions or even just to get sh*t done!

It will be a dynamic, action-oriented relationship for sure. The interesting thing here is that a 2♦ person can get very caught up in trying to decide between career (or having enough money) and doing what they love. That 6♦ is about financial responsibility and as a Mars card, it motivates them to get fixated on the bottom line of their finances, sometimes to the point of that being their main focus instead of enjoyment or their true happiness.

Baby is also a Mars relationship to Dad’s ruling card, so he will also feel the trigger of anger or motivation with this child.

Dad and baby have a mutual Mercury between his birth card and her ruling card, so they will easily communicate (which will help that Mars energy!)

Dad and oldest daughter also have a mutual Mercury.

Mom and baby have a mutual Venus between her birth card and baby’s ruling card and as well, a Venus between Mom’s ruling card and baby’s ruling card.

Venus between parent and child makes it a very close, loving energy and since it is ‘mutual’ both will feel that same creative, easy, loving energy.

As a Cardologer, if I was doing a relationship reading for this family, I would say that because there is both Mars and Venus energy playing out – that any anger/triggers that Mom might feel, she needs to check in and see if her child is playing out a want or expressing a desire that Mom is suppressing and the ‘anger/frustration’ is acting as an indicator of a need for Mom to LIVE her passions and not suppress them. (This is a very common dynamic that parent/children tend to play out!)

Let’s look at the relationship between the two kids (sisters):

Big sister’s ruling card is the First Karma card of little sister. Oh my! This means that big sister is actually learning to BE/Have or DO what little sister represents as a 5♦! Big sister is here in this life to give to little sister!

Now, we don’t always like or feel comfortable with those who are our first karma card because it is what we are striving to become- it is an aspect we are trying to achieve in this life and it moves us out of our comfort zone and into uncomfortable and sometimes scary territory!

The sister’s have a Venus relationship as big sisters’ Venus card is the ruling card of little sister and there is also a mutual Venus between big sister’s ruling card and little sister’s birth card. So, other than the karma relationship, these two will be close and have a very loving relationship.

Mom and Dad have a mutual Jupiter and Mom is Dad’s Uranus card. A mutual Jupiter means they provide blessings and gifts to one another. A Uranus relationship means it can be a close bond as long as he allows her to be herself.

This is a family that is very close-knit as is commonly expressed. If we look at their cards in the Spiritual Spread (where we find indicators of past lives together), we see a lot of connections there. They have been traveling together through time and space as souls!

I now get to watch this all play out.

I did use the Astrology knowledge I had when my kids were growing up, but if I had known what I know now about the relationships between me and my kids via Cardology, I could’ve made better choices in how I related to my kids.

Just because kids are born to the same parents does not make each child the same in how they view, react and navigate through life! If, as parents, we better understood how they will navigate through life, we can help them create the environment to empower them and not try to force them to see life the same way we do!

Curious about the energetics between you as a parent and your kids?

I have a Reading just for that!

In my next post, I continue this topic with another twist to card/family dynamics: What if the cards say family members have a Venus (Love) or Jupiter (blessings and gifts) and everything looks like thy will be close and supportive…but, (as in the case of my biological family) it is far from close and loving?

Every energy has its dark and its light, its positive and its negative…what if that family is caught in the opposite of the Venus love (which is fear)?

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Jul 18 2018

Suicide – is it in the cards?

I decided to tackle a delicate topic for my article.

Suicide.

The topic has been all around us recently with the deaths of Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade and the new season of 13 Reasons Why airing – which has schools addressing the topic with parents.

It has also been a real issue in my past. I attempted it several times (unsuccessfully, thankfully).

With regards to the cards, many ask: Can you predict this with someone’s forecast?

Can you predict death with a forecast?

First, I want to say that some readers are good at predictions. It is a gift. Personally, I don’t like giving predictions because there are so many variables and I believe that we can change our course in each second of our life.

But upon looking at Anthony’s current forecast, there are indicators.
Before I get into what they are, I also want to say that I did not know him personally and in writing about this, I am not saying I know all the ins and outs of his particular situation. I loved his shows and am saddened by his death.
Robert Camp says that the cards in a forecast at the time of someone’s death reveals what was going on inside them and sometimes even close family/friends don’t know 100% what that person was going through, thinking or creating.

I want to use Anthony’s forecast to highlight what indicators were there.
Anthony was a 5♣ (Birth card) and a 10♠ (Ruling card)
A 5♣ person has the propensity for depression. Why? The 5♣ sits at Mercury and Saturn. They can get caught up in seeing the glass half empty with negative thinking that affects their self-esteem. This is also a conflicting combination because Saturn is traditional/structure/rigid and the 5♣ card is about breaking the rules and thinking outside the box. Because of this and the fact that they have the A♠ as their Venus card (Mercury and Neptune), they can also be addicts. That A♠ means there are secrets in their life – they actually love those secrets and in many ways is their mode of operation in their love life.

While this doesn’t mean they will end in something as tragic as suicide, these folks many times deal with hidden demons.
His Ruling card is the 10♠ which is almost the opposite of the 5♣ in that because it sits at Mercury and Jupiter, it is about big, optimistic thinking. The person is friendly, out-going and into travel, foreign cultures, higher education and philosophy. They also have a tendency to exaggerating, and sometimes over-looking details. (whereas the 5♣ can get very rigid with their painstaking focus on the details.)
Again, this doesn’t mean they will end their own life and I don’t presume to know what he was truly like – but that birthday/card combination isn’t an easy one, and I would imagine even harder if you are in the lime-light.

In his current forecast, under his 10♠ ruling card, his Long range card (the energetic theme for his 61st year) is the 9♠.

The 9♠ card is about an ending in your health and or lifestyle. It is the big completion card. When this card is your Long Range card, something is definitely going to end in your life.

Sometimes it can be that you experience someone close to you dying, but there will be an ending or a series of endings. He was in his Neptune period and he had his Ruling card (the 10♠) there, sitting in the K♣ spot, (which is Uranus and Uranus). The 10♠ in Neptune can point to health issues with drugs or alcohol. The 10♠ card is also called the Workaholic card. When our own card(s) are in our forecast, it puts an emphasis on our own ‘aspects’ that the planet represents. It acts as a mirror, showing us more of ourselves. Neptune is our illusions, our secrets, our fears, our desires.
It is also interesting to note that he had as his Result card in his 7-year forecast, the 9♠. He was in his Uranus year (in his 7-year spread) and he had a 9♠ under his Ruling card. On his birthday, he would’ve gone into his Neptune period (of his 7-year forecast) and there he had an A♠.
The A♠ is another card that can indicate death and is always about a big transformation – it is a death of some part of us, so something new can begin.
He also had as his Pluto card (in his 7-year forecast) the 9♥, meaning his soul’s challenge was in letting go/experiencing the ending of things that mattered to his heart and/or some relationships.

As the Pluto card for a 7-year period (which means it is an over-arching energy along with your yearly energies at play), the 9♥ can be very difficult for many. Letting go of someone or a relationship can be a lifelong issue and some can’t ever truly let go.
Many times you’ll see the 9♥ at play when someone dies because they are ‘ending/saying good-bye’ in their relationships or it can be their only way to fully ‘let go.’
I currently don’t know any 5♣/10♠’s that are in their 61st year, but it is not an easy year for them and if one sat with me for a reading, I’d check in on how they felt about their life.

When we have the tools to use – such as this system that acts as a blueprint- we can work with issues that are challenges and burdens for us. When we can see our loved ones going through a time that is challenging, this system can be a guide to understanding what they might be dealing with.

It was because of Cardology, that I could heal my past and end my struggles with clinical depression and the thoughts of suicide. I literally owe my life to Cardology.
No one really knows what is going on within the depths of someone who turns to suicide. It is such a delicate topic with many implications.

One positive outcome of tragic endings that make national news is we all start openly talking about it. We pay attention and we look deeper at our own issues or someone we love who might be struggling with depression.
For me, my cards shed light on why I struggled and also let me see the dynamics of the relationships in my life that played a big part in my issues. I could take what was very negative and transform it into something very positive. No matter what card(s) we are and what forecast we have, there is always a positive outcome if we so chose.

I am here if you or anyone you know needs to talk – I DO know how it feels to be that low.

The main thing for all of us is to always be willing to reach out FIRST. Sometimes we can’t sit back and wait for someone feeling that low to reach out to us. Check in on all those you love.

Dec 18 2016

2017 – New Year, New Personal Number!

What if, at the beginning of each year, you got a hand-delivered message that said: Here is your mission for this year. Here is what to expect and here is the best way to get through it in the most natural way for YOU.

Nice huh?

Guess what? The Universe does exactly that for us. There are energetic roadmaps that shows our natural patterns for the year.

Got goals? Why not use your natural energetic patterns to help you get to those goals?

I say hell yeah!!

Here we are, about to start a new year. So, why not be better prepared?

When you’re working towards a particular goal, knowing what innate energies will be present in your life and what “cycles” you are in is very beneficial.

Your personal ‘numbers’ ( via Numerology) and the main cards of your current forecast reveal these energies.

Why not know and use the energies that will be present in your life to help you achieve your goals?

Before I talk about how to use this information, let me clarify:

The Cards in your forecast goes from your birthday to your next birthday. Your Personal Year number goes from the start of a new year, to the next new year.

Every one of us will have a new Personal year number once we are in 2017. As an example, my birthday is in July, so while I am still in the forecast (through the cards) until my next birthday in July, my personal year number will change on Jan 1st – thus having an influence on my forecast.

This sounds more confusing than it really is. 🙂

These logistics get easy to recall once you are tuned into knowing your personal cycles and current energies at play.

The point is in knowing how to benefit from them.

Being aware of the cycles is the first step in benefiting from it. This helps you to understand why the things that are happening are happening. It takes you out of any confusion or feelings of being a victim, or as some feel, that they’ve been cursed or did something bad. What an awful way to go through your days!

When you understand the energy of the cycle you’re in, you can take advantage of it to help you with your goal. As well, if you know the cycle of your spouse, kids or others you are close with, it helps with understanding where they are as well.

This is the beauty of knowing and understanding the tools we’ve been given. This information is what I call our ‘soul stats.’

We go through 9 year “cycles.” We begin anew in our personal 1 year, and each year’s energy after that helps us to move through that cycle towards the dreams and future we set at the beginning.

I ‘ve been in a personal 2 year in 2016. My Long Range card (the main energy for my year) is a 2♠ and my Pluto card is also a 2♠. A LOT has been going on for me regarding partnerships and doing things with others as well as cooperation and compromises. Those 2 cards went along with my 2 Personal year number beautifully.

But now for 2017, my Personal Year number will be a 3, yet those 2 cards are still in play.

What does that mean for me?

A 3 year is more active, more creative. I’m taking what I gained from the partnerships, compromises and cooperation situations and will use it to outwardly express myself in more social situations. A 3 year can be very social, very creative and it should be more fun! But ONLY if I’ve fully owned and embraced my truth and what is in my heart. It is like we have the 2 year to find our truth because of our more intimate relationships – in a 3 year, we can feel confident to go out and BE our truth!

What tends to happen – without us even realizing it – is that what is going on in our life will “fit” the cycle we’re in.

The experiences, people and your energy will fit the cycle you’re in.

What can happen if you don’t know the natural energy you’re in?

Things can feel as if you’re getting nowhere, or the same things keep happening over and over and they aren’t what you want happening.

If you’re in a 9 year and trying to launch a new business, things will seem stuck, clogged or as if you’re losing. You might face more losses than launches.

If you’re in a 7 year and you’re trying to network, socialize and expand your business, you might find yourself sick a lot or things happen that keep you out of the social situations you think you should be in because this energy is about time alone in reflection.

Yes, you can still proceed in your usual way without knowing. We have free will at all times to do what we want! But the natural energy or flow that allows us to live with ease might be one that conflicts with your plans.

Think of it like this: You decide you want to go to the lake. You put on your swimsuit, pack your sunscreen and head out there. But, it is December and there is a Lake Effect snow advisory. Snow showers are in the forecast and 3 to 6 inches are expected.

You could ignore the forecast and go. You might enjoy yourself…you could struggle through it. But, why go do something that is unpleasant or contradictory to the situation if you could instead, do something that goes with the situation? Maybe on that cold snowy day, you could build a fire and read a good book.

While that example might be very simple, the fact remains that when we go with the flow of the natural energies at play, things are easier, smoother and we actually get MORE accomplished! There is a reason for the cycles we have in nature and while our society puts non-stop ACTION on a pedestal, we must have time to ponder, time to sow ideas, time to clear clutter, time to hibernate and time to work with others.

And as always happens, your Forecast cards fit so beautifully in even when your personal number changes. It adds this little twist to make your situation uniquely YOURS and to allow for your journey to go in the direction your soul is wanting you to go.

Why not be aware of this and use it to your benefit?!?

I know what is going on and what I need to do, and because I know….I understand how to plan.

I can plan accordingly and not get distressed when others say, this is what you should be doing.

As well, the Universal number is going to change. 2016 has been a universal 9 year – a year of endings, completions and a wrap-up.

2017 will be a universal 1 year – a year for new beginnings, new ideas and new projects. If you can view what is going on around you globally and realize things have been breaking down so NEW can be built, you’ll go through the year with a clearer understanding.

Add YOUR new personal number to that universal 1 energy to see HOW YOU will be helping with the NEW stuff being built!

It (WE) all works together to create this life we decided to be a part of at THIS time!

This is why knowing reduces anxiety and stress!

How friggin’ awesome is it to be clear on what is going on?!

I love working with a clients ‘soul stats’ – which is the information in their astrological chart, their numbers and their cards – so they can clearly know and plan for the things they truly desire!

Sep 20 2016

How the Cards can Reveal the Energy of Your Soul Contracts

Do you ever wonder why you have the friends you have? We all think we had no choice in who our parents are, but what if we actually chose them?

Do you wonder why you met a specific person? Why did they come into your life?

Have you ever thought about soul contracts? That the people that come into your life are there for a reason? At a non-physical level, you both agreed to assist or work with one another.

We have many soul contracts and there are many who are co-creators with us as we walk our path. Gratefully, a BIG part of Cardology is a way for us to better understand all of those various relationships that are soul contracts.

First, a tiny bit about soul contracts:

Soul contracts are agreements you are making from the multidimensional aspect of you. This can include the non-physical as well as the physical. It is an agreement between your partner, your family, your friends, a pet, a job, a place that you live, etc. They are contracts you are making in order to share, change, grow, and appreciate the present through variety of experience. Life would be pretty boring if we were truly alone with nothing to prompt evolution!

The “mystical” or confusing soul contracts are usually “larger” and made from the non-physical, which is why they typically feel a little bit like a head-spin. So our advice to you is to use your heart!

I don’t know about you, but sometimes a person will come into my life, cause what feels like unnecessary pain, and I am shouting, WHY!?!
Many times it is confusing as to why certain people behave as they do and we wonder why we are dealing with them at this point in our lives. We struggle with how we can help the situation. (Unless you enjoy relationship drama!)
One of the most popular topics I get with clients when doing readings is about their confusing or painful relationships.

Within the system of the cards is an in-depth formula for better understanding our relationships.

Because it is so in-depth, I can’t share all the ways the cards can clarify things in a single blog post, but I wanted to share a few basic ways you can see what might be going on between you and another person and why you are in what might seem like a frustrating or confusing relationship.

All you need to check in with this basic formula is two things:

Know the birthday of the other person
Use the Solar spread chart (You can see it below)

If you know anything about the cards, you probably know that we each have a birth card and a ruling card (much like we have an astrological sun sign and a rising sign). If you don’t know anything about the ancient system within the deck of playing cards, learn more here.
You can use the birth chart here on my website to see what your birth card is if you don’t already know.
You’ll want to also see what the birth card is for the person you are wondering about. (You need to know what their birthday is.)

The Solar Spread chart (also called the Earth Spread) is how the cards are naturally arranged. Below is an image of the Solar /Earth Spread.

Find your birth card in the chart.
First, you want to see what cards are in your birth card spread – these are the cards that comprise the blueprint of you and define your birth card. There are more than 8 cards in this spread, but for the sake of keeping this simple, we will only use 8.
All you need to do is see what the 8 cards are following your birth card.
You do this by finding the card that sits to the left of your birth card and continue going left.
The first card to the left will be your Mercury card, then Venus, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and finally Pluto.

The image below shows what my birth card spread is. I’m a 6♣. I wanted to use my card as an example so you can see what to do if the card you are looking at sits at the bottom of the chart.

The rule for finding your birth card spread is: always go to the left, then drop down to the next row, start on the right side and continue left.

The exception to this is when the card is found on the bottom row. In that case, you’ll go up to the top, start on the right and count left. I’ve circled my birth card and used numbers to show what cards are in my Birth card spread.

I’m only using 8 planets, which goes to Pluto.
Card #1 is Mercury
Card #2 is Venus
Card #3 Is Mars
Card #4 is Jupiter
Card #5 is Saturn
Card #6 is Uranus
Card #7 is Neptune
Card #8 is Pluto

Those cards are my Mercury through Pluto cards.
Next, do this same thing with the birth card of the other person – find their birth card spread.

Now, you’re ready to look at three ways to see what energetic relationships are going on between your card and their card.

1. The first method for seeing what your relationship might be about is to see if the other person “is” one of your birth spread cards.

What do I mean by this? A close friend of mine is a K♠. You can see that my Saturn card is the K♠. This shows me that she will represent my Saturn card. Energetically, she will be very “Saturn” to me and be someone who will be showing me what my Saturn card is about. Remember that the cards represent the people in our lives as well as an energetic pattern. How can we realize what an “energy” is for us, unless we experience it in the physical? The best way for us to do this is by experiencing it through the people we relate to day in and out!

One of the very helpful things about realizing this is that while I will experience her in this way, others in her life won’t. If we have mutual friends, we won’t all experience her this way – they will experience her in whatever energy their relationship is. This is so helpful to know when any drama erupts between a circle of friends!

You will be looking to see if the person you are inquiring about is one of the cards in your spread, or you are one of the cards in their spread.

Now, in the above example between my friend and I – it is only that she is my Saturn – I’m not Saturn to her. My 6♣ birth card is not in her Birth card spread.
This means she’ll be a certain energy for ME – but she won’t feel that energy FROM me.
This is the first basic thing to look for when you’re checking on another person and what might be going on between you two.

2. The second thing to look for is called the Vertical connection.

I’ll use my daughter as an example. Her birth card is the 9♥.

As you can see from the chart to the right, her Birth card spread is not the same as mine at all – but we do have a connection.

Her card is directly above mine or “vertical” to me.
Since her card is 2 spaces away from mine, that makes her Venus to me. (remember that Mercury is 1, Venus is 2 – so 2 spaces is Venus)
But, it is not the same for her.
Since we only go up when we look at vertical connections, we see from her point of view, if she goes up to the top (K♠), she would then go to the next column to the left, and back down to the bottom (6♠). So, while we have other connections because of our Ruling cards, she doesn’t have anythng ‘vertical’ to me.

This means, to me, her energy is Venus. I will experience Venus with her.

**Below I explain the energy of each planet and what they mean in a relationship.

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3. The third thing to look at is if your card and their card has a diagonal connection.

I’ll use my housemate as an example. Her birth card is the 3♣. Looking at the image below, you can see that she sits diagonally from me 2 spaces.
Because it is diagonal, it is mutual. Meaning, I am also Venus to her. So, there is a Venus energy that flows between us. Unlike my other example, we will both experience the Venus energy. (I’ve been using examples that are all two spaces away…remember, it can be 1 space away , which is Mercury, or 3, which is Mars, or 4 which is Jupiter, etc.)

Once you see what type of relationship your two cards have, you can use the reference below to get a better idea of the type of energy there will be between you and the other person.
Remember that unless the connection is diagonal, the point of view will be different and that alone can affect a relationship!

Note: Many family members or close friends will have a Venus connection – that easy, loving connection. However, that connection can suddenly go very wrong (or have major issues!) Why? I talk about that here because it is another big topic within relationship connections.

*Here is what each planet represents as an energy in a relationship:

If the other person is Mercury to you – You will find that you both think and talk in a similar way. You communicate easily and share similar ideas and points of view, or you stimulate one another intellectually and converse well.

If the other person is Venus to you – You will love, appreciate and enjoy them. You won’t feel the need to change them, you feel no issues, it is a very loving, easy relationship!

If the other person is Mars to you – they will motivate you, give you strength to move forward, or make you angry. If this is a romantic relationship, there will be a lot of passion and heat between you two.

If the other person is Jupiter to you – they will be a blessing to you – giving things to you without being asked! They will support and encourage you. You are very compatible.

If the other person is Saturn to you – They will act as a teacher for you and you might not always like it! They might feel like a burden or make you feel less than because they might always be telling you what you “should or shouldn’t” be doing. But, they can be a great opportunity for you to grow and improve yourself by not taking their criticism personally and instead use it constructively.

If the other person is Uranus to you – They will do unexpected things that take you by surprise, and you might feel uncertain with them or their actions and you can’t control them. But there is a deep friendship when you allow them to be who they are and not place any expectations on them.

If the other person is Neptune to you – you will probably see them through rose-colored glasses and there will be a sense of disillusionment with them. This can be a difficult relationship if you only see them as you think they should be, or it can be very enlightening if you take a step up with this relationship and allow the spiritual essence of it to allow you both to grow. There will be a strong psychic bond between you two.

If the other person is Pluto to you – They will be challenging to you and they can help transform you. They can be a reminder of what you want to become, or they can feel like someone who is shining the light on your shortcomings, or wanting to control you. They will do things that brings Pluto energy into your life so you can transform something you need to transform.

There is a low and high/positive and negative to every planetary energy.

A Venus or Jupiter relationship might be someone who has a soul contract to help you, assist you or be the one who delivers the blessings of the Universe to you. If we constantly refuse their gifts to us, we are blocking our blessings and the love that Source is showing us.

A Mars, Saturn or Pluto relationship can feel challenging or hard, and we might think it best to be rid of them, when in fact, if we are aware of what is going on, we can step up and improve our life from what they offer us. (I want to add here that abuse or any dysfunctional relationship that is hurting you is not one to stay in – when I say “challenging”, I’m not referring to abuse.)

Every relationship is an opportunity for us to evolve and experience what we came to experience in this life.

If you feel confused by someone, ask yourself these questions:

Why did I choose to have this relationship?
What would I change about this relationship?
What is awakening within me because of this person?
What about them is just like me?
What about them is something I wish was me?
How do my answers reflect the energy of the planet(s) represented in the relationship between our cards?

What I’ve shared in this post is but a tiny part of what the cards can reveal about our relationships, but even one small “aha” can make all the difference in your life when navigating relationships!

relationships_express_source If you would like to really get to the heart of what is going on between you and someone else in your life, you can always book a session.

Soul contracts are essential to our experience on earth as a human being. Whether easy, fun, hard or challenging, the people in our lives are there for a reason. 🙂

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Aug 14 2016

Acknowledge Where You Are Now As OK

I will admit…I’m feeling like I’ve hit rock bottom. Things have not been this scary for me in many years.

So much is going on in the world and the astrological events have us feeling unstable, unsure and disappointed.

Fortunately, Saturn turned direct after its four months in retrograde. Literally, from the second day it went retrograde until yesterday, I have been in a state of questioning. What exactly IS my work? What kind of routine do I want? How do I do what I really want to do? I’m very unhappy with certain things in my life right now.

Saturn has been in my 6^th house – the house of work, service and our routines.

I can look back now and see how it made me question everything, it made me weigh all I was doing and make some core decisions. It hasn’t been pleasant.

I over-reacted when things felt out of control and my ‘reality’ seemed unsure.

I know that focusing on my uncertainty and my current frustration isn’t going to get me where I want to be.

This has been a huge opportunity for me to really hone in on how we need to NOT focus on the stuff around us that feels and looks negative.

But, how do we do this?

After my housemate did a tarot reading for me, I calmed down. She assured me that underneath the surface, things were just fine. I think some wise advice for things right now are to take deliberate actions instead of reacting to how things seem to be.

I reached out for help by talking to a few friends. It helped immensely. We all need that right now. Don’t forget to reach out if you need to. Allow yourself to receive care and support, and be open to unexpected GOOD. Things are better than they seem. Even if it feels as if nothing is happening – guess what? It is – even if we can’t see it right now.

The exercise below helped me a lot, so I wanted to pass it along to you.

Here are 3 powerful steps to help you clear any past (or current) gunk so you can move forward:

Acknowledge where you are right now. Acknowledge it on an emotional level. The past doesn’t exist anymore. Who you were is no longer. But, as humans, we hold onto all that gunk and it clogs us up when we try to make any changes. Guess what? It’s all OK. Own it. Own any negative feelings you have right now about money issues, about how you feel about yourself, how you feel about how you make your living, how you feel about any failures, mistakes or confusion. You can’t get clear when the muck of any negative feeling is clogging you.

Do you feel stuck? Scared? Unsure? Powerless?

Write it all down. Create a poem about it. Dance it out. Slather paint on a board that represents it.

Make sure you address all negative emotions that you currently have about your life.

Then step back and say. “All of that is OK. But now I’m focusing on how I want it to be and I’m moving on. And you’re not moving on with me.”

You must release it to the point that it no longer has an emotional charge for you. Because what’s in front of you right now is perfect.

Yes, read that line again: Because what’s in front of you right now is perfect.

How can bad health, or no money, or the insanity of our country’s politics, or the economy be perfect as it is?

Narrow your focus down to just YOU. Where you are, what is going on, IS perfect, right now.

You do this in order to retrain how you think and focus.

Regardless of what is going on around you and what others are saying, feeling and thinking, you don’t have to buy into it and make it your vibration. You can choose NOT to focus in on it, always be talking about it, getting all riled up about it. You have a choice, which is what your innate power is – to choose your reality.

To move past what is not feeling good for you currently in your life is to become a vibrational match for what you DO WANT as often as you can.

What are the majority of your thoughts? THAT is what Source will match and bring to you.

The stuff that is upsetting you is upsetting you because that is what you are focusing on. Paying attention to it isn’t going to make it better. Expecting things to be better, imagining how you want it to be and knowing things WILL improve WILL make it better.

Back to that where you are is perfect statement.

It is where you need to be in order to know exactly what you want.

That has been HUGE for me. Because of how things are for me right now, I have been getting REALLY clear on exactly what I want, where I want to be and what I want to do.

Once you acknowledge the gunk –

You focus on all the positive things you have going on right now and have accomplished and are grateful for in your life.

Where have you succeeded? What do you do well? What in your life is working really well? What do you have that you love? What do you do that you love and are good at?

Don’t limit this list. Get into everything about you that is on track and awesome – even the little things!

Go back to that first list and one by one, take responsibility for it. With each one, say, “Yes, this is how I feel about this. I created this. It happened. So what?”

Surrender to it. With no judgment.

So what if you’ve been stuck? So what if you’ve been scared and freaked out about money? So what if you’ve felt a lack of confidence in your abilities? So what if someone made a negative comment about something you did? So what if your parents think you are not as far in life as they think you should be? So what if you failed at the last 3 attempts to start a business?

Why can you say “so what?” to all of it?

Because the ONLY thing it means is that you weren’t in alignment with what you wanted.

Period.

It has NOTHING to do with your ability, potential or possibilities. Zip. Nada.

Shit happens. Shit happens to all of us. We all go through negative times and feelings. We all get stuck, make mistakes and freak out.

But now….now you realize this and you can just let it all go and stand in a new space… a space of: “Now I know what I want and how to be in alignment with it so I can manifest it.”

You know how contrast can make a story, image or poem pop? Well, it makes life pop too. It makes us see and know what we don’t like or want, so we can focus on what we do want.

That is all.

Repeat after me. “That is all.”

Here is a little secret for you: If you let it go and truly release the emotional charge of it, then anyone who might’ve been part of making you feel bad about it, will also stop.

The world can be going “to hell” as we like to say, but things can be blissfully peachy for you – because that is what Source will deliver to you – as long as you take your focus OFF the “going to hell” stuff. 😉

Let’s retrain how we think, shall we?